About Us

Our Mission

Our original goal of crafting high femme alternatives to dark and moody bondage gear has shifted and grown over the years to include antifascist activism in the name of sexual freedom.

Our Philosophy

We believe the best sex and the healthiest relationships start with a solid foundation of self - starting with self esteem, working toward self love, and integrating self care on a path to healthier sex and relationship choices. Sound like a mouthful?

Basically, we believe the more you love yourself, the easier it is to make healthier choices in dating, relationships, and in the bedroom.

In the words of the incredible Eartha Kitt: "I fall in love with myself, and I want somebody to share it with me. I want someone to share me, with me."

So we've got you covered from self care to aftercare.

We believe the best sex and the healthiest relationships start with a solid foundation of self - starting with self esteem, working toward self love, and integrating self care on a path to healthier sex and relationship choices.

Our Story

Annie & Tara met in seventh grade and ran a successful jewelry & accessories business together for years prior to conceiving of Restrained Grace in 2016.
In fact, RG was basically a bastardization of their original brand, which focused on personalized and nerdy jewelry.

Utilizing tools already in their studio and skills already in their repertoire, the pivot to kinky jewelry and eventually leather gear was easy and exciting. Soon they were individually electroplating buckles and padlocks because rose gold hardware didn't exist yet, and our signature black and rose gold leather gear is what went viral and helped Restrained Grace gain traction online.

RG is truly a home-based business, Miss Annie works with digital art, wood, metals, resin, and our trusty Glowforge in her home in California, two cats and a dog underfoot. Miss Tara creates jewelry and leather gear from her home in Florida, with a toddler underfoot.

Our Products

Our product evolves along with us. We're self taught, learn-as-we-go types, and that means we're always developing new ways to improve our products. For example, before we developed our own nickel-free hardware, the only hardware we could get was made for handbags, not for skin-contact. (yikes!)

When I launched RG it was pretty heteronormative, but then again, so was I! Over the years I've come out as queer, ambiamorous, and agender - and since I always design for myself first, naturally our product line and clientele has adjusted and grown along with me.

Our Tiny Team

(and yes we've all actually been friends since high school)

Miss Annie

She/They

Owner, Designer

Miss Annie is queer, agender, autistic, and disabled. A home chef turned kitchen witch, she spends her free time cooking, gardening, and learning to live slow. She lives in San Diego with her swashbuckling mad scientist of a partner, two orange cats, and a tiny, aggressive dog.

Miss Tara

She/Her

Owner, Designer

Miss Tara is a lifelong creative and music lover. She spends nearly all her free time chasing around her three year old daughter.

Eric

He/Him

Customer Service

Eric is a lifelong film and music buff who works full time as a film editor and moonlights for us responding to your emails. He spends his free time going to shows and indie films around Los Angeles.