Versatile (AKA "verse")
refers to a person who is willing to top or bottom. Versatile individuals do not necessarily engage with power exchange, or may be of any power-exchange alignment.
We've begun building a glossary of terms related to sex positivity, kink, BDSM, social justice, gender, sexuality and healthy relationships.
What you'll find here are our definitions based on widely accepted definitions, along with an update for the roaring 2020s.
You won't find aggressive gendering or heteronormativity here. You also won't find a guide telling you how to do BDSM the One True Way.
We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.
We've begun building a glossary of terms related to sex positivity, kink, BDSM, social justice, gender, sexuality and healthy relationships.
What you'll find here are our definitions based on widely accepted definitions, along with an update for the roaring 2020s.
You won't find aggressive gendering or heteronormativity here. You also won't find a guide telling you how to do BDSM the One True Way.
We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.
Stop Light System
a popular and widely recognized set of safe words that follow the convention of traffic lights, with green meaning “go” yellow meaning “caution” and red meaning “stop”
Soft Limits
can refer to an activity which one does not wish to engage with except under specific circumstances with certain conditions attached, but for which they may still give informed consent.
Fake Dom
A disparaging term for someone in the kink community, usually online, with the pretense that they are an experienced Dominant, almost solely for the purpose of seeking sexual partners they can exploit. Fake doms often display disrespectful behavior, such as the expectation that s-types to submit to them just because they call themselves a Dominant.
Knife Play
play involving knives, daggers, and swords or other bladed implements as a source of physical and mental stimulation.
Life Partner
a person with whom one has the intent of a long-lasted and intertwined committed relationship. Often, but not always, the relationship is sexual and/or romantic in nature. A life partner need not necessarily be a spouse, though most often a spouse is a life partner.
