Cisgender - Restrained Grace's Modern BDSM Glossary

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Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

a person whose sex assigned at birth corresponds with their gender identity; a person who is not transgender.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices for cisgender individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to

Using some form of the name one was given at birth.
Having strangers correctly guess your pronouns most of the time.
Rarely having to “explain” your gender identity to anyone.

Susan has examined her gender identity and realized she is most comfortable identifying as the gender assigned to her at birth.

Tula has not thought about his gender identity very much. He has never felt uncomfortable being a man, and has never had cause to consider being anything else.

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