What is a Funishment? - Restrained Grace's Modern BDSM Glossary

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Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

a portmanteau of “fun” and “punishment” used to refer to consequences given for the sake of mutual enjoyment rather than as a form of discipline meant to discourage a behavior.

Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common funishment practices include, but certainly aren't limited to:

Routines, or a language of call and response developed between partners over time.
Communicating early on that all parties understand the nature of play that is desired.

Oscar often spanks their partner, Pedro in response to Pedro rolling his eyes. Oscar knows that Pedro enjoys being spanked and the goal is not to discourage future instances of eye rolling.

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