Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

an act in which someone derives pleasure from allowing a consenting audience to watch while engaging in sexual, kinky or otherwise intimate behavior. 

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving scenes include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Involving an audience, either dedicated voyeurs or passers by who may be more invested in their own play. 
  • Events at a dungeon or other venue.
  • Private/invite only play parties.
  • Public shows for instructional purposes.

Sally likes to engage in public play for an audience.

Joe flogged someone on a Saint Andrew’s cross at Folsom Street Fair after a brief conversation about limits and safe words.
Mary loved the attention of voyeurs and would love to bottom on stage. 

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