Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

the strong feeling of excitement and infatuation that is common in the beginning of any new intimate (especially romantic) entanglement.

Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving new relationship energy include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Idealizing one’s new partner 
  • The impulse to be around the new partner all the time
  • A collective eye-roll from one’s longtime friends
  • Portrayals in media as the definition of romance (this can be problematic) 
  • Lasting anywhere from a few weeks to a year. 
  • Some individuals experience this phenomenon to greater or lesser degrees. 

Eileen and Zjazja have been dating for 3 weeks, and are so enamored with one another that all conversations seem to lead back to the topic of their budding relationship.

Tonya has a rule against making any life-altering decisions regarding a relationship before the NRE is safely in the past.

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