Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

an umbrella term which refers to people whose gender identity falls outside of the traditional categories of “man” or “woman”. Often used synonymously with genderqueer. Can include genderfluid, agender, and multi-gender individuals. Frequently shortened to NB or Enby.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices for non-binary individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to
  • Using they/them pronouns
  • Accepting any pronouns 
  • Changing pronouns day-to-day or depending on presentation. 
  • Being hot AF and making people question their sexual orientation 
  • Being a funky bog goblin who is certified as a local cryptid 

Lux sometimes feels like a man, other times like a woman, and other times somewhere in between.

Taylor has always felt “other” in a fundamental sense, no matter how they presented. Discovering their non-binary identity helped them understand themself and feel valid.
Ash has always preferred an androgynous presentation and does not identify with binary gender. 

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