Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

an act where one or more parties is treated like a non-sentient entity, usually for erotic purposes. This may include being physically used as an inanimate object such as a piece of furniture. Referring to someone in the third person is a more psychologically focused example. May overlap with dehumanization.

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving this kink include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Use of 3rd person for self, or other depersonalizing language.
  • The objectified party remaining silent/wordless.
  • “Dirty talk” that emphasizes lack-of-agency
  • Use of terms like “fuck toy” etc 

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