Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

a practice which involves one or more dominant(s) taking control and exercising influence over one of more submissive(s) who willingly relinquish their own authority.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. 
Power exchange is particularly complex, so we outlined four specific types of power exchange on their own pages. Common general power exchange practices include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • falling into one or more specific categories of power exchange which are defined on their own pages.
  • Communicating with partners early on about what kinds of power exchange is desired
  • Having continued conversations with partner(s) as dynamics grow and change over time 
  • Writing a contract and agreeing to it’s terms 
  • Having a set of rituals, rules, or protocols whether formal or informal.

When they are at home, Jazz gives Beth full control of their general plans, inside and outside of play.

Will follows rules set out for him by his dominant partner.
Sasha can always ask her partner to hold the reins of her day to day decision making. 

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Please note, comments must be approved before they are published

We want your take!

Help us improve the glossary! We're looking for:

  • Anecdotes for kinks in practice, tell us about a scene or an interaction that you feel best illustrates an entry
  • Suggestions for topics to add
  • Short stories to help illustrate each glossary entry - true or fictional stories that demonstrate a topic. (1 page, tops!)
  • Folks who disagree - tell us why we're wrong!

We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink, sexuality, and the diversity within it all, and we can't do that alone!

Make sure to sign your name as you want author credit if we publish your submission!

Join Our Mailing List

New releases, exclusive coupons & early access to sample sales. We send out emails once a week, max.

More from the Glossary